MIAMI — If you’re looking for love, you should get out of your comfort zone, according to Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger.
If you’re a member of an online dating site, drop the idea that you want to meet a “geographically attractive” mate, Stanger said.
Type in 250 kilometres from your postal code, Los Angeles-based Stanger advised. She met her live-in boyfriend, mortgage broker David Krause, on a website this way.
“He’s from Orange County and drove to see me every single week. Truthfully, I never would have met him had I not decided to date outside of my region,” she said while on a visit to Miami.
So if the singles’ bar scene is not working for you, head north, Stanger said.
She has recently set up a website, singlegirlshandbook.com, offering free advice about why some women stay solo and how to change your relationship status.
In Stanger’s opinion, the main problem facing single people searching for love on the web is that there are too many choices.
“The thing I’m finding is that people aren’t trying to get to know each other,” Stanger said.
“They just discount one small fragment of a profile. We’re not talking deal-breakers. We’re talking, ‘I want a girl who’s five foot four, not five foot two.’ It’s stupid, ridiculous things.”
The second problem is that men are letting their fingers do the talking.
“It’s OK to text her when you’re in a meeting and saying, ‘I’m thinking about you,’ but when it comes to asking her out, you have to call her. Texting is for teenagers.”
Stanger recommended joining a few sites — don’t limit yourself — and post a flattering picture.
“I don’t want to see you bungee jumping,” Stanger said in her signature blunt way.
“Go to a professional. Get your glam squad or whatever you use. Make sure it’s quality and makes an impression.”
