Each day, there are many different algorithms that subject us to perfectly tailored content on various platforms.
When I log into YouTube, Facebook, Netflix and Twitter, I enjoy having a variety of content to choose from that I will most likely enjoy based on my past use.
I also acknowledge that having artificially hand-picked content perpetuates our current views and opinions and does not provide adequate space for us to broaden our views, or challenge our perspectives.
We are losing the ability to listen to people who are different from us.
If you believe the world is round, you can find millions of sites online agreeing with you, and if you think the world is flat, guess what, there are also millions of sites agreeing with you.
When we seek to find information that provides us with confirmation that our “thoughts” are correct, we are sliding down a dangerous slope.
When we are so sure that we are correct, we assume others must be wrong. There is a cartoon drawing of two people standing on each end of a large number drawn on the ground. One is certain it is a six, the other is adamant it’s a nine.
When we come in so strong demanding we are correct, it doesn’t leave any room in the conversation for the other party to feel that their voice could even be heard. Being heard also does not mean that people need to agree with you in order to have heard you.
When I was taking my master’s degree, I took a course on Communities of Practice. It was a mandatory course and at first glance at the syllabus, it wasn’t something that I was overly keen on studying.
In short, a Community of Practice is formed by a group of people with a similar interest or topic.
A key element is that when you share your thoughts, you are not trying to convince people you are right. You are sharing only to be heard.
If someone shares their thoughts or perspectives, you are there to listen, not to criticize or argue. You can share a different view on the topic without telling someone they are wrong.
When we are in this type of environment, an amazing transformation occurs, because the space is not about seeking confirmation. Someone is sharing for the sole reason of being heard, not trying to sway someone one way or another.
It’s easier to take the time to try and understand when you know someone is not trying to make you agree with them.
In Indigenous culture, there is a significant value given to the act of humility. We can share our perspectives in a humble way, acknowledging that there can be space for other perspectives.
I think too much time is spent on the goal of “being right,” and I see this as being selfish.
Take the time to listen to someone you may not agree with, and when you are listening, try and understand the why behind their words, without thinking of everything you disagree with.
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